Strategies for Dealing with Psychopaths
Recognize Psychopaths Quickly – They look normal, just like you and me. Good people do not want to believe there are people who are so evil who seem so normal.
We see the world as WE ARE, not as it is. It's like having a pedophile in family – you sense something is wrong but because you don't think that way you don't see it, and most importantly you don' t want to believe it.
Understand there are people who look normal and act normal who enjoy hurting other people. Their favorite tactics include:
- Verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and psychological violence causes pain and leaves scars but not physical evidence.
- Constant criticism, fault finding combined with a simultaneous refusal to value, acknowledge, recognize or praise.
- Manipulation, isolation, exclusion are favorite tactics.
- Power, control, domination and subjugation.
- They love to cause conflict and set people against each other.
Don't Give Psychopaths Your Time and Attention if you can help it – they may be bosses, family members. Detach before you get destroyed.
Don't Let Them Disable You With Doubt, Destroy Your Confidence & Self Esteem – If they do, they are automatically right, you are wrong and you accept this as fact. Making you doubt and discount yourself is key to their domination.
Develop a Plan To Defend and Remove Yourself Physically and Emotionally. This is especially important when you can't get away from them easily... bosses, family members.
Get Help - Surround Yourself with Good People – Be Careful Who You Trust.
Be Very Verbal, Visible, Forthright – if you isolate you'll be an easier target. Surround yourself with good people. Make it clear how good you are.
Understand Their Goals – What They Want and Don't Let Them Win – Power, Control, Superiority; they seek to Hurt, Humiliate & Subjugate.
Don't Give Them Satisfaction – showing hurt, pain, distress just feeds their sickness. They want to hurt you, the more hysterical you get, the more they enjoy it. Reacting reinforces their drive to do more. Be unemotional and factual.
Don't Return Evil for Evil – that allows their evil to control you and direct your responses and feelings. If they can make you mad, look bad or crazy, you have played into their hands. They want to discredit, dominate, control, humiliate and subjugate you.
Revolt & Rebel – don't let them control you, steal your happiness or stop your work.
Emphasize Evidence - Document what's happening. Be very factual, unemotional.
You Cannot Bargain or Negotiate with Psychopaths! They don't care, they are pathological liars, they do NOT keep promises.